Importance Of Teenager's Relationship With Parents

These days, teenagers want to be independent and try to drift away from their parents and other family members. They don't know the importance of maintaining relationship with parents.  As they grow they resent any interference of their elders and feel that the parents and their relatives are more of a hindrance than a help. As bachelors they want to be at a distance from parents to avoid their checks and prying eyes.

After marriage they want to live separately as a nuclear family for privacy,  for the "welfare" of their children. Unfortunately their spouses encourage and even pester them to stay away from the family for some reason or other.

Due to new job opportunities,single and married youths have to move away from parents. But even when staying away,cordial relationship with parents can be maintained by giving them the feeling that you care and are concerned about them by your visits, phone calls, letters, attending family functions and requesting them to visit you and welcoming them at your place. Just thinking about yourself, your spouse and children while ignoring  parents and other family members will cut you off from the family lifeline which is very important for emotional support and happiness.

For sons, daughters the ties with parents is a lifeline for various reasons. Parents and elders of the family are the greatest well-wishers of their children. If at any time they show their anger or do not agree with your views or do not support you on your decisions, do not take it to heart or become cross with them. You may not realise it  today but most of the time, time will prove that they were right. They may not be as educated as their sons and daughters are today but parents have long experience with them and have gone through the ups and downs of life.

They have come accross a variety of people of different nature who were very good, good, so-so, bad and very bad.  Their knowledge of human nature is unsurpassable.

You never know when you will be ditched by your lover or by your husband or wife or duped by your friends or happen to fall ill or get injured.  If have kept the family life line intact, rest assured that your parents and people will definitely come to your rescue, howsoever you may have hurt them by your attitude, arrogance and adamant behaviour in the past.

Parents today are no more as rigid as in the past and often quite amenable to adopting new views and act on them. If they still resist some action on their grown up children, it is either due to some compulsions of the community in which they are living are due to their foreseeting the likely harmful effect to their beloved children in the near and distant future.

Many youths think that they do not need anybody to help them.  They have good neighbours, friends and money which will see them through all adversities.  No doubt, neighbours, friends and colleagues are of great value and help as they are the closest, but at the same time you have to maintain good relationship with parents.

Money is a great mover and most of the requirements can be catered to with money.  But these do not fill the void created by distancing yourself from your parents and other family members.