Monday, March 29, 2010

Importance Of Teenager's Relationship With Parents

These days, teenagers want to be independent and try to drift away from their parents and other family members. They don't know the importance of maintaining relationship with parents.  As they grow they resent any interference of their elders and feel that the parents and their relatives are more of a hindrance than a help. As bachelors they want to be at a distance from parents to avoid their checks and prying eyes.

After marriage they want to live separately as a nuclear family for privacy,  for the "welfare" of their children. Unfortunately their spouses encourage and even pester them to stay away from the family for some reason or other.

Due to new job opportunities,single and married youths have to move away from parents. But even when staying away,cordial relationship with parents can be maintained by giving them the feeling that you care and are concerned about them by your visits, phone calls, letters, attending family functions and requesting them to visit you and welcoming them at your place. Just thinking about yourself, your spouse and children while ignoring  parents and other family members will cut you off from the family lifeline which is very important for emotional support and happiness.

For sons, daughters the ties with parents is a lifeline for various reasons. Parents and elders of the family are the greatest well-wishers of their children. If at any time they show their anger or do not agree with your views or do not support you on your decisions, do not take it to heart or become cross with them. You may not realise it  today but most of the time, time will prove that they were right. They may not be as educated as their sons and daughters are today but parents have long experience with them and have gone through the ups and downs of life.

They have come accross a variety of people of different nature who were very good, good, so-so, bad and very bad.  Their knowledge of human nature is unsurpassable.

You never know when you will be ditched by your lover or by your husband or wife or duped by your friends or happen to fall ill or get injured.  If have kept the family life line intact, rest assured that your parents and people will definitely come to your rescue, howsoever you may have hurt them by your attitude, arrogance and adamant behaviour in the past.

Parents today are no more as rigid as in the past and often quite amenable to adopting new views and act on them. If they still resist some action on their grown up children, it is either due to some compulsions of the community in which they are living are due to their foreseeting the likely harmful effect to their beloved children in the near and distant future.

Many youths think that they do not need anybody to help them.  They have good neighbours, friends and money which will see them through all adversities.  No doubt, neighbours, friends and colleagues are of great value and help as they are the closest, but at the same time you have to maintain good relationship with parents.

Money is a great mover and most of the requirements can be catered to with money.  But these do not fill the void created by distancing yourself from your parents and other family members.

Friday, March 26, 2010

How To Stop Bed Wetting In Children - The Causes Of Bed Wetting

Bed wetting or enuresis is common much guarded problem which effects boys more than girls.  It is true that most youngesters grow out of it, but you can help matters by consulting a doctor who can rule out any pathological  reasons.  Usually, these children are highstrung or stressed.  


If there is nothing physically amiss, try to relax before bedtime.  Avoid drinking liquids for at least 3 hours before sleeping.  Keep an alarm clock to awaken to twice in the night so that you can go to the toilet.  There are special alarm systems availble which will awaken you as soon as you begin to wet the bed.  Constant arousal will soon get you to recognise bladder fullness even in sleep.


During the day try to control a full bladder for long periods of time to strengthen the voiding sphincter.  Your family doctor will be able to advice and monitor your problem very efficiently.


Stress in you children can also be on of the causes for bed wetting.  So find out the reasons for stress in you child.  If parents are heading for a divorce or you are going to a new place permanently.  Shifting your child to a new school may also cause stress in your child.

You have to pay special attention towards your child if you find stress is the reason behind your children's bed wetting problem.  You should not punish or scold your child when he or she troubles you on small issues otherwise , this may further add to the stress in your child.  Being a parent, you have to realise that bed wetting is a common problem that comes involunterily in children and parents have to extend their best help in treating this problem.  As a last option you can also take him to a qualified counselor to find out a better solution.



Tuesday, March 23, 2010

An Overview Of Four Basic Parenting Styles

Experts identify that there are four basic parenting styles. These styles are known as , “authoritative”,  “authoritarian” , “neglectful” and “permissive”.  There are important differences between each of these styles, and there is one style considered ideal above all the others. We’ll review each one individually now.


AUTHORITATIVE

This type of parent holds high expectations of the child’s behavior while allowing an open dialogue with the child about those expectations. Rules imposed on the child are fair and expressed clearly. The authoritative parent teaches the child about cause and effect, decision-making and self-sufficiency.  Children raised in an authoritative environment have more self-confidence and initiative, are liked and respected by their peers and will be generally well-rounded adults.  

AUTHORITARIAN

The authoritarian style of parenting is the ‘old, stereotypical style best described in phrases like “children should be seen and not heard” and “spare the rod, spoil the child.” Authoritarian parents expect a high degree of conformity and compliance from their children, and are more likely to use corporal punishment as discipline. The problem with authoritarian parenting is that the ‘rules’ often change at the parent’s whim, so the child never truly know what is expected. One could describe the situation as ‘unfair’ and threatening.
Many children raised by authoritarian parents live in a constant state of fear. They tend to display less self-confidence and are socially withdrawn.


NEGLECTFUL

Neglectful parenting is best described as a step beyond “permissive” parenting. The neglectful parent may provide food and shelter, but is generally emotionally uninvolved in the child’s life.  A good example of this would be parents who never ask their child questions about their day, their friends, homework, etc.. A neglected child may have serious issues going on outside the home, but the neglectful parent is never aware of them until something potentially tragic occurs.

PERMISSIVE

Permissive parenting is typically characterized by a warm, loving relationship between parent and child, but is flawed by low expectations of behavior. In other words, the permissive parent is usually afraid to make demands on the child much less hold him to any standard. Children raised by overly permissive parents tend to suffer from a lack of focus, immaturity and problems with emotional regulation.

Out of the four basic parenting styles, the authoritative style is considered ideal. 



Saturday, March 20, 2010

What Is Primary Complex And How It Is Diagnosed ?

Primary complex is an infection due to the tuberculosis bacteria. They can lodge in any part of the body. The tissues respond by accumulating white blood cells at the site of primary infection which is now called the primary focus. The tubercle bacilli from the primary focus are transported along the lymphatics to the regional draining lymph nodes, causing an inflammatory response as a result of which the lymph nodes enlarge. After a while the lymph nodes liquefy in the centre leading to the production of a thick white cheesy material.

These days the primary focus is usually diagnosed before this occurs. Any suspiciously enlarged, painless lymph nodes, especially if they are matted together are suspicious of a primary focus. These are subjected to FNAC (fine needle aspiration biopsy), the material obtained is sent for histopathological examination and the diagnosis confirmed. You will need anti-tubercular medication for at least a year. When the full treatment course is completed, you should be completely cured.  However, it is possible that at a larger stage, the primary complex may get reactivated if your general level of health or immunity were to decline for some reason.

Thursday, March 18, 2010

Is It Safe Using Drugs While Breast Feeding ?


Though most drugs enter breast milk, there is hardly any effect on the baby. This is because firstly the drug is diluted in a mother's body; further dilution occurs in breast milk after which only a fraction of the drug will be absorbed by the baby's intestines and only part of this drug will be free to act on the baby directly.

However, there are certain drugs that are absolutely prohibited during breast feeding. These include anticancer drugs, radioactive substances, etc. Aspirin, tetracycline, chloromphenicol and long-acting sedatives and tranquillisers are relatively contraindicated while breastfeeding.

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

How To Tackle Your Child's Biased Teacher

If you suspect that your child's teacher is biased and is treating your ward unjustly out of spite, what do you do? Do you straight away have a face-to-face confrontation or do you try and find reason behind the teacher's behaviour? Some times it is a better option to check some facts and make it clear whether the teacher is actually biased or there is a miscommunication between your child and the teacher before pulling the teacher up.

As parents our first reaction if our child complains about his teacher is to believe our child. For instance, if your son says that there was no error in his recitation yet the teacher gave him less marks, you give your son full benefit. Similarly when he says that he was left out of the drama because the teacher is biased, you sympathise with him. While it is important to hear the children out it is also equally important to find the reason for the teacher's behaviour.

To come up with a clear perspective, here are some questions you need to ask your child. Take, for instance that your child is left out of the drama.

1) How many children were selected? if your child is omitted, that might be because he was not
suitable to play the role of a certain character.

2) Is your child involved in some other activity, maybe a dance or a song? if so, then you have
no reason for doubt. It may be that your child was interested in doing the drama and since he
did not get a chance, he feels the teacher is partial.

Why do children feel their teacher is biased?

There are a number of reasons why students feel that their teacher is biased. Check some of the facts listed below:

The teacher scolds the student often.

Despite doing well the student's effort is not praised.

The teacher complains about the student to the parents.

The student feels ignored when the teacher pays more attention to
weaker students.

If the student has been a favourite with the previous teacher and this class teacher doesnot
show him the priority, he gets the impression that his teacher is biased.

If he is pampered at home, it is natural to expect his teacher to treat him with the same
affection and overlook his mistakes.

He is finding his lessons tough and by portraying his teacher as prejudiced he puts the onus
of falling grades on the teacher.

While these could be some common reasons why children blame their teachers and convince their parents that their teacher is a villain, there are some genuine cases when teachers are actually biased and if this problem is not sorted out your child could be the sufferer for a whole year.

Like almost every human being, teachers too have their own favourites and if your child is not the lucky one you have reason to be miffed. But when simple favouritism becomes damaging to other students progress and peersonality development its time parents stepped in and sought a solution.

Is the teacher actually biased:

By following your child's progress, it is easy to assess whether your child's being targetted or not. A suddesn decline in the grades is the first sign. Show genuine concern in trying to find the reason. Be responsitve if the teacher provides a reason. Make her provide the solution and show her respect because teachers are thirsty for recognition. Maker her feel how important is her role is in your child's future and she might realise her responsibility and resolve her grudge against your child.

If the matter is not settled, you can take up with principal but ensure that you have all the evidence in your hand. Suggest shifting of your child to another section. Unless your child is really suffering you should not change the school, else your child will get the feeling that you will always bail him out of a tough situation, and he will stop adjusting.

If you are still not convinced, go for a change of school because this can affect the whole outook of your child's school life from a harrowing experience to a memorable one.

Saturday, March 13, 2010

How To Tackle Speech Problems In Yound Children



Some children do start speaking late, especially if delay in the onset of speech runs in your family or that of your husband for, in quite a few cases it is hereditary. Another reason for this delay in speech could be that he is not spoken to often enough.  For example, if he is the only child in a nuclear family and you are a working couple. So either talk to him as often and as much as possible or see to it that he interacts with other children in the neighbourhood. Try to spend more time with him and have meaningful conversation.  He will slowly show signs of improvement in his speech.  After a few months, there will be a faster and greater improvement in his speech.

If your child still having speech problems and speaking like a small child, he has to go through all the stages a child has to go through while learning to speak. Do not worry - he will pick up soon enough though it is worthwhile to get him checked by and ENT specialist and a speech therapist.

Thursday, March 11, 2010

Learn Parenting Techniques On How To Control Your Child Surfing Internet

There is a condition called the 'internet addiction syndrome' that has come up in recent years. Surfing the nets, chatting, watching porn sites has become a major socio-psychological problem. Being a parent you should know right parenting techniques to tackle this problem.

It is not good even for an adult, leave alone a child, to spend so much time continuously at the computer. Dark circles will soon be the least problems. As times goes by, he will suffer from dryness of eyes and pain in the back and neck. So, please see to it that he gets out of the habit fast.

You have to deal with this issue strictly but not to hurt the child at once, but you will have to be firm with him however much he resists. Allot a fixed time for the internet. Keep the computer in a common living area so that he cannot sneakily go to objectionable sites. See to it that he does not visit cyber cafes or bunk classes in school to go to the computer room. Rope in the help of his  teacher to get him on track. See to it that he does some sort of physical exercise for atleast half an hour in a day. Give him a  healthy, balanced and nutritious diet. Regulate his sleeping habits.   But remember what ever bad habits a child has, are to be corrected at an early stage, don't neglect your child showing the reason that you are too busy with your work.  First try these parenting techniques, if all fails then take him to a psychiatrist.

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

How To Get Rid Of Bad Breath - Bad Breath Remedies For Parents

Bad breath is a very common problem. People may avoid persons having bad breath, even divorce can occur. Many toothpastes and mouthwashes are available which claim to keep the mouth fresh and smelling good. Untill the cause is removed, these bad breath remedies are ineffective. Bad breath, medically called halitosis, may be bacause of many causes.

Causes of bad breath :

Many foods and drinks such as onion, garlic, cheese and alcohol can cause temporary unfavourable smell in the mouth. Use of cigarette, tobacco, gutkha, and alcohol has the same result.

The most common reasons for bad breath are diseases of teeth and gums. If teeth are not cleaned properly, the bacteria feast on food particles entangled between the teeth producing smelly gases.

Various diseases of the mouth, gums, teeth, tonsils, adenoid diseases, sinusitis can also cause bad breath. Children suffering with any or some of these problems will have bad breath problems.

Hyperacidity, gastric oesophageal reflex disease(GERD), oesophageal diseases can cause the problem of bad breath. Many lung diseases cause bad breath.

In diabetics, if not controlled, can cause the production of acetone, which causes a fruity smell, disagreeable to many.  Liver and kidney diseases can cause bad breath.

Certain drugs can also lead to bad breath.

Bad breath remedies :

Bad breath is a social stigma and particularly children must take care of mouth hygiene to get rid  of it to avoid problem in future. In most children, it is the result of bad habits. By changing habits one can get rid of bad breath.

Drink plenty of water as deficiency of water can lead to a foul smell from the mouth. Parents should teach their children the importantce of drinking more water.

The mouth should be rinsed vigorously after every meal, even after snacks.

Teeth must be brushed in the proper way for at least three minutes in the morning and before retiring to bed. Better, they should be brushed after every meal and gums should be massaged. Proper brushing and massage keep teeth and gums healthy and prevent bad breath.

The tongue should be cleaned after meals by a tongue cleaner.

Dental floss and stimulation, if done regularly, cleans the germ pockets harbouring between the teeth.

After meals, they can be rinsed with antiseptic mouthwash to keep the mouth healthy.

Do not consume tobacco, gutkha, cigarettes or alcohol. They are harmful to the teeth and gums and even increase the risk of many serious diseases and cancer.

If suffering from tonsillitis, adenoid inflammation sinusitis, these should be treated properly.

Gastric acidity and gerd are common causes of bad breath. If one is suffering from these or other diseases, these should be properly and adequately treated.

Bad breath remedies include taking care of mouth hygiene and  neglecting it, may be responsible for embarrassment. spare a few minutes for mouth and teeth care to get rid of it.

Monday, March 8, 2010

Realise The Potential Of Your Baby Genius With A Brain Full Of Connected Neurons

Yes, You can have a baby genius in your home. He has a brain which is very similar to the brain of a genious since all brains have about a million neurons.  But if this is so, why do some people grow up to be geniuses while others do not? The answer lies in neuron connectivity. When the brains of baby genius were studied, it was seen that there was more connectivity between the neurons in their brains than in the brains of non-geniuses.

Are you feeling disappointed and saying that this then is the crux of the matter? Genius is a matter of neuron connectivity and that is something genetic? Well, it may be genetic, but connectivity is also something that can be brought about and the earlier you start doing it for your child, the better.

You cannot wait till your child goes to school because the child goes to school because the child learns the most by the time he is four or five and besides, our educational system "degeniuses" kids.  So one has to be innovative in producting a baby genius.

But first, a bit of information about the human brain and neuroscience which studies it.

"The last couple of decades have seen giant steps being taken in the field of neuroscience,".  Research has shown that foetuses can learn that values can be inculcated in unborn infants. But most research in neuroscience  has moved from that point in the direction of  studying the medical significance of these discoveries and the treatmentof genetic and neurological problems.

But there is another equally exciting aspect of this research, a proactive  way of using the knowledge that neurological research has given us, in the field of education. Yes, it is possible to educate foetuses and infants if he understand the word 'education' in the widest and truest sense of the word.

We have known for some time now that most learning takes plays before a child is 4 or 5, but now we also know  that we can start very early - in the prenatal stage.  This because we have proof that what the foetus goes through shapes its personality and brain.  Another exiting point is that most of this early learning that we can help the infant and small child to gain is right-brain learning, something that is badly neglected by our educational system which concentrates mainly on left brain learning.

However parents should not show anxiety and constantly test the child.  They should not have unrealistic expectations either and think that their child will be as brilliant as Einstein by five.  All children do not learn at the same pace and genetics also definitely plays a part in the development and final levels reached by a child. But there is always a chance that your can make a baby genius.

Sunday, March 7, 2010

Parenting Teenagers - Does Your Boy Or Girl Have Mood Swings?

Teenage is a complex period of transition and mood swings are normal.  Parenting teenagers is a difficult task. concerns about identity, free atmosphere of the college, sudden change in whole outlook, worries about appearance and friendship are just some of the things that grip teenagers. Add to this, the ebb and flow of harmones. All these factors result in an unpredictable mixture of moods; happy and outgoing one day, glum and depressing the next.

The teenage is the most turbulent stage of any one's life, this is the age when all the physical, hormonal and emotional changes take place and during this stageif he or she is not getting proper attention and guidance ot can lead to emotional imbalance and can have Mood swings.

Teenage is the most crucial age because at this age children are neither young nor adult. In this age they have many physical, psychological, emotional changes in their body which they are also not able to recognise and understand them resulting  mood swings which is a normal phenemena. At this age their behaviour pattern also changes.

Mood swings are defined as uncertainity between elation and degection. Extremes and predominate with the more moderate variations in between almost completely absent. Most researchers agree that it is a combination of biological and emotional factors that affect a teenager's mood.  There is another aspect to be looked into between 16 to 19 years of age when one can show the symptoms of mood swings (bi-polar disorder) if he has the genetic loading from his parents and grandparents of the same type of illness.  They need to be given proper attention and treatment if they require, after consultation from the psychologist/psychiatrist.

If your teenager or daughter starts having mood swings and stays out late, they it could very well be a sign that your daughter or son is in love. Swiss researchers  at the  Psychiatric university clinics found that teen sin the early stage intense romantic love were more prone to mood swings.  Parenting Teenager is a sensitive task and one should to know how to tackle it.

Parents Role:

First thing parents need to remember is that mood swings are part of the course with teens.  The challenge is to know when they need to be tolerant and when there is a real problem that needs attention Counsellor Harman Saini believes that parenting teenager in this condition is very important. He suggests,  "they should spend more time with their children, understand their anxiety with patience and wisdom, and need to have one to one dialogue with open mind without rejecting their ideas".

As adults, we need to set examples before the adolescents.  So it will not be wise to treat them with "tit for tat" policy.  Be like water and learn to flow with them.  Reinforce the right behaviour and refrain from commenting on the undesired behaviour.

The adolescent knows what is right and what is not.  They love to learn form experiment.  So give them freedom to discuss their experiences.  Remember that it is their temporary phase, so be wise in parenting teenagers.  


Friday, March 5, 2010

The Problem Of Constipation In Children And How To Avoid It

If you think that constipation in children simply because he has infrequent stools, in that case you better think again. Having infrequent stools does not really mean constipation although this problem is characterized by irregular bowel movement.

Constipation in children is a consequence of a deficient and unsuitable diet, insufficient intake of fluids or a problematic colon. Children who take in too much refined food or food without fibre generally suffer with constipation.

So how does one know when a kid has constipation? A kid may well have constipation if he has very dry and difficult stools or if he puts extra efforts to send his stools. A person's solid waste passes through the colon which is normally consists of some water that is inside the stool. However, when the colon is not functioning well, it may remove too much of the water in the feces resulting to very dry and rigid stool, thus resulting in constipation.

In plain words, constipation occur once the body's solid waste stay in the colon, thus extracting more fecal stool than what is needed. This happens when a person's colon has smaller movement as a result of a diet that does not appropriately stimulate the colon to do its usual function. Constipation also occurs when there is a barrier in the  tract as when there are problems with the anus or a tumor blockage.

Babies, especially those who are breast-fed, do not really experience constipation because the baby absorbs nearly all of the milk and there is not much residue left. Infants naturally discharge their waste less often but it does not mean they are constipated. However, when they are about to to get their feces off, they generally do it with a lot of grunting and forcing. This must not worry parents though since it is natural as the baby�s anus may still be a little taut and needs extra stretching prior to the stool can be released.

It is a diverse story though for formula fed babies who can get constipated due to the milk residue in the colon. When these infants become toddlers and given a additional solid diet later on, then they can be further prone to getting constipation.

For babies with really packed anus and who repeatedly experiences irritation when passing stool, it is best to have a rectal examination by a trusted doctor to make sure there is no obstruction in the anus.

So how is constipation in children treated? One way of avoiding and treating child constipation is to improve his diet which is rich in fruits and nuts. Teach them good food habits so that as they growup they will not attract much towards junk food.

There are mothers and even doctors who suggest drinking plenty of water daily right from childhood is good to stay away from constipation throught the life. The intake of fruit juices like apple or banana may perhaps also help in loosening the stool.

Always seek your pediatricians advice if you notice such problems.

Thursday, March 4, 2010

Health And Physical Fitness: Are You Kidding Yourself About Your Child's Health And Physical Fitness

I'm not surprised so many kids today are unfit. Todays parents do not realizing the importance of child's health and physical fitness. There are a lot of incentives for them to stay indoors. When I was young we would get home from school and after tea, for much of the year we would be off outside to play untill it got dark. Now, thanks to a combination of  feeling it is unsafe to let kids out alone, and the lure of computer games and TV, it seems more attractive to stay in.

Yet parents are fooling themselves about how much exercise their kids get.  A study by the British Heart Foundation found three quarters of parents thought their children were active enough but it turned out only one in 10 kids did the recommended hour of daily activity to improve health and physical fitness.

This is setting them up for a lifetime of weight and health problems.  As parents we need to be honest with ourselves about whether our kids are as fit as they should be, then do something about it.

Some children are not as sporty as others and should not be pushed into it.  It is far bettter to spend time trying different activities with your children to see what motivates them.

If them are into nature, got them for a walk around a local farm or zoo.  Set a time limit on how long they sit in front of the TV or computer. One hour a day is plenty until age 10, moving towards two hours as they hit their teens.  Once screen time is over, encourage them to paly outside or take them for a walk.

If your kids are moderately active, ie., are doing some exercise but you need to find ways to include more in their day if want them to stay slim and healthy.  Reseach shows good habits made now last a life time.

If always ferry your kids to school or drive every where at weekends, think about leaving the car at home.
As long as it is not far, walking or cycling benefits you both and saves money.

Encourage them to join just one after school club if they don't belong to any so, rather than flopping in front of the TV, they can have fun with friends, playing football, tennis or swimming.

If you have superfit kids, your familiy are really active and enjoy the fun and extra energy that goes with this life style. You set a good example by keeping fit.

Keep up the good work, but make sure they get down time at home too, as kids need to learn to relax and do nothing from time to time. And the odd pizza or chocolate bar won't hurt as long as they are eating well most of the time.

Conclusion: As parents we need to be honest with ourselves about whether our kids are as fit as they should be and do something about it. We should strive for good health and physical fitness for our children.

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Benefits Of Baby Massage And The Right Way Of Doing It

Research has shown that regular baby massage benefits the growth and development of the baby. It moisturises the skin and scalp, promotes mother-child bonding and baby massage enhances the psychological well-being of the child.

You could begin by massaging the scalp with a mild oil and then move over to the rest of the body. Rub some oil between your palms, hold the baby's foot with one hand and move the other hand from his buttocks to his foot. Follow the same motion with the other hand. Alternate both hands in this way, taking care not to squeeze the leg. Repeat this motion in the reverse. You can flex and relax the foot and roll the baby's leg between both hands. Repeat with the other leg.

Now, place both your hands in the centre of his chest and move them outwards around his chest. Next, place one hand on his belly button and move it gently downwards. Follow with the other hand. For the arms, place both hands on the centre of the baby's rib cage and move them outwards over his shoulders,upper, lower arms and hands in one smooth motion.

As for his face, put both your hands on his forehead and slide them down the sodes of his face with your thumbs massaging the sides of his nose. Lastly, make small circular motions over the baby's cheeks in front of the ears, loop around the ears and chin. Baby massage in this way will benefit a lot in overall development of the baby.

Tuesday, March 2, 2010

The Causes Of Poor Performance Of A Child At Study

The poor performance of a child at study is one of the troubling parenting issues in today's world.

The causes for this problem include:

Defective hearing or vision: If it is there, they must be corrected at the earliest for him/her to improve.

Learning disorders: Dyslexia(difficulty in reading), dysgraphia(difficulty in writing could be a cause which must be looked into and treatment planned accordingly. This type of parenting issues must be addressed at an early stage.

Lack of interest in a subject or the way it is taught. Daydreaming can also disturb with school work.

Insecurity is the most important cause of poor performance in an intelligent child. This may be due to problems at home, fear of the teacher or a bully at school.

Poor concentration which again could be due to low intelligence, boredom or dislike of the subject. On the other hand,it could also be because the child is exceptionally gifted and find the work too easy. Such parenting issues should be handled softly so that the child is not hurt mentally.

Conclusion: The children with poor performance are to be taken to a psychologist to have his IQ tested, an ophthamologist for his vision and ENT specialist to test his hearing and act accordingly.

Monday, March 1, 2010

Tips For Good Child Parenting

With postnatal preparations, you also have to prepare for the arrival of your baby. All throughout the child parenting process, you'll find yourself thinking and even daydreaming about things like wonderful times you will spend with your child, but you have to put that one on hold just for now.

To be able to assist your child in learning how to properly cope up with life and how to face its vicissitudes, you should allow your child parenting skills to kick in and let it guide you on the right path. Being a parent is a life long experience.

As a parent, try to rediscover the inner child in you - to do this, you have to step inside and be in your children shoes. Try to remember what it was like to be a kid again, this process is called as "rediscovering your inner child". You must admit, that we tend to forget how it is to just relax and get stuck with our boring lifestyle and jobs. For you to understand the issues at hand with regards to your children, try putting yourself your children shoes for a change. Try to see things from your children perspective and you'll then gain a realization and a understanding about how they are feeling and why they are rebelling. Good child parenting skills teaches you how to actually listen to your child's needs and not relinquish them, but it is all up to you on how can you stand strong and see the issues in your child's eyes and develop a solution that will please you both.

For sure, we all want our children to have better and happier lives than ours were. Parenting never stops, whether you realized it or not. Parents seeing and watching over the years where his/her child's strikes out their own to become independent and self-aware is incomparable. Always, think before you decide to become a parent. Parenting is nothing but a continuous process.

As young as two years old, a child can start learning to do easy chores. As opposed to other children who have little or no opportunity to be allowed to explore self-reliance, who was never taught to learn that with possession always comes responsibility, and was never allowed to fulfill their very own needs, sadly they tend to acquire a sense of entitlement which obscures their sense of contribution. As a result of your child feeling self-sufficient, they will feel confident enough to rise above any situation. True independence is the only precious gift that you as a parent can actually give to your child.

If your child argues, all you have to do is to repeat that rule over and over, as opposed you starting a debate with your child and as a result of doing this, you will gain more cooperation from your child. By showing your feelings towards your child - Often times when you start to show compassion towards your child and reflecting back what or how they are feeling is helpful for gaining cooperation from your child. Your child is then less likely to oppose if he/she feels that he/she have some control of the situation when trying to gain cooperation by good child parenting.

There, now you can say that being a parent is incomparable. By taking interest, it will definitely encourage your own child to work harder and to maintain good behavior while at school. Do not let fear overcome you, the joyful experience that a child can bring to their parents is enough to pay for all the hardships that you will endure in rearing a good child. We never wanted to stand out like a dweeb or a sore loser to be laughed at.

First, parents should try to rearrange their schedules in order the entire family to sit down for meals even if it's just for one meal out of the week. This is one of the best ways that will help you in good child parenting.

Also, there should be a timeout for issues that have been brought up earlier and the issues should be continued at a later time which is another solution for enjoying stress memories.

Design your dinner table to be a little more festive, avoid the usual setting of a bouquet of flowers.